Baby Sleep Wednesday, Jul 25 2007 

Safe skin care during pregnancy Wednesday, Jul 25 2007 

By Angie Drakulich

•  Retinoids
•  Salicylic acid
•  Soy
•  Acne products
•  Hair removers & minimizers
•  Sunscreens
•  Makeup
•  The final word

Most pregnant women know that what they put (or don’t put) in their bodies is important to the well-being of their growing baby, whether it’s the right kind of protein, too much caffeine, or certain types of fish. But many pregnant women might not know that what they put on their bodies is just as important.

Most of us slather on oceans of lotions every day, but we don’t think about what might be passing the skin barrier and being absorbed into our bodies. With a developing baby in your belly, this is a vital concern.

“Everything you eat, apply, or come into contact with may affect not only you but also your baby,” says Sandra Marchese Johnson, a dermatologist with Johnson Dermatology in Fort Smith, Arkansas.

“Because some topical ingredients get absorbed into the bloodstream, there are some you want to avoid,” adds Leslie Baumann, a professor of dermatology at the University of Miami and author of The Skin Type Solution (Bantam, 2006).

The more powerful and targeted products get, the more we need to be careful about what we have in our skin-care regimens during pregnancy. While most commonly used products are completely safe, there’s a handful of ingredients considered potentially harmful to a growing baby. Below, see our guide to what to look for when shopping the beauty aisle.

If you plan to breastfeed, adds Johnson, continue following the guidelines noted below until you stop nursing.

Retinoids
These powerful substances, found in some antiaging moisturizers, are lauded for helping reduce wrinkles and improve skin tone. Retinoids are a type of vitamin A that speeds up cell division (quickening your skin’s renewal) and prevent skin collagen from breaking down.

But retinoids are one of the skin-care ingredients that experts, including Baumann, recommend that expectant moms stay away from. Some studies have shown that high doses of vitamin A during pregnancy can be harmful to an unborn child. And oral retinoids, such as isotretinoin (Accutane, an acne treatment), are known to cause birth defects.

If you’ve been using a skin cream that contains a retinoid, don’t panic. Retinoids have not been shown to cause problems in their topical form in pregnant women.

“There is no data to show these retinoids ingredients are harmful when used on the skin — doctors are just being extra cautious,” explains Baumann.

On the label:
Differin (adapelene)
Retin-A, Renova (tretinoin)
Retinoic acid
Retinol
Retinyl linoleate
Retinyl palmitate
Tazorac and avage (Tazarotene)

Bottom line:
Best to avoid

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Salicylic acid
This mild acid is used to treat certain skin disorders, including acne, and you can find it in a number of skin products, such as cleansers and toners. It can penetrate facial oils to get deep into pores and clean out dead skin cells. Salicylic acid is in the aspirin family, so it can also help reduce inflammation or redness. BHA, or beta hydroxy acid, is a form of salicylic acid and is used in some topical exfoliants to reverse signs of aging.

But salicylic acid is another no-no for pregnant women. High doses of the acid in its oral form have been shown in studies to cause birth defects and various pregnancy complications.

Again, doctors are being cautious by recommending that pregnant women avoid the topical use of salicylic acid. Small amounts applied to the skin — such as a salicylic acid-containing toner used once or twice a day — are considered safe, says Johnson.

But the concern is stronger about face and body peels containing salicylic acid. “This kind of ’soaking’ in the ingredient is similar to taking one or more aspirin when pregnant,” she explains.

“More product used equals more absorption into the bloodstream,” adds Baumann. Always check with your doctor before having a peel treatment. Better yet, she advises, if you must have a peel, have it done professionally at your dermatologist’s office. A dermatologist will know how to do it safely during pregnancy.

On the label:
Salicylic acid
Beta hydroxy acid
BHA

Note: Alpha hydroxy acids, sometimes listed as AHAs, glycolic acid, or lactic acid, are safe.

Bottom line:
Best to avoid

Soy
Some moms-to-be seek out natural ingredients such as soy in their skin-care products, thinking that they’re free from harmful effects. But that’s not necessarily the case, says Baumann.

While soy-based lotions and facial products are generally safe to use, “Soy can make the ‘mask of pregnancy‘ (dark splotches on facial skin) worse, as can oil of bergamot, which is in many organic products,” she says.

Soy has estrogenic effects, which can make those dark patches, also known as melasma or chloasma, worse, Baumann explains. “The ‘active soy’ found in some product lines is okay, however, because the estrogenic components have been taken out.”

On the label:
Lethicin
Phosphatidylcholine
Soy
Textured vegetable protein (TVP)

Bottom line:
If you have dark skin or melasma, avoid these products, or choose ‘active soy’ products instead. Otherwise it’s safe to use.

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Acne products
Many women have breakouts in the first trimester because of changing estrogen levels, even if they’ve always had clear skin. If you’re dealing with pregnancy-induced acne, a dermatologist can likely give you a safe topical antibiotic, advises Baumann. You can find a dermatologist in your area through your health insurance company or at the American Academy of Dermatology Web site.

But if you prefer to avoid yet another doctor appointment, Baumann recommends using a facial wash that contains no more than 2 percent salicylic acid (look for the percentage on the product label). This small amount is considered safe.

If you want to be doubly sure, ask your obstetrician or midwife before use. As for what to avoid when it comes to treating acne, stay away from leave-on acne lotions, gels, and creams, as well as at-home peels, which can contain salicylic acid or retinoids, says Baumann. And, of course, steer clear of the oral form of the retinoid Accutane.

On the label:
Beta hydroxy acid
BHA
Differin (adapelene)
Retin-A, Renova (tretinoin)
Retinoic acid
Retinol
Retinyl linoleate
Retinyl palmitate
Salicylic acid
Tazorac and avage (Tazarotene)
Tretinoin

Note: Glycolic acid is an AHA, and safe to use.

Bottom line:
Consult your dermatologist, or use mild over-the-counter cleansers only.

Hair removers & minimizers
Lotions that remove your hair chemically (depilatories) or that minimize hair between shaves sound like a dream come true when you can barely reach — not to mention see — your legs. The good news is that these products are considered risk-free.

“There are no specific ingredients to avoid when it comes to these types of products,” says Baumann. “The only risk is an allergy.”

Catherine Lynch, director of the division of general obstetrics and gynecology at the University of South Florida, says, “As long as you use [chemical hair removers] as directed, they shouldn’t be a problem. It’s a topical solution that isn’t absorbed into your bloodstream, so it can’t have any effect on the baby.”

If you’ve had an allergic skin reaction to hair minimizers or removal creams in the past, then you should avoid these products during pregnancy as well.

Also, some women’s skin gets extra sensitive during pregnancy, so you may have a reaction to these ingredients even if you haven’t before. Before slathering your whole leg, do a patch test on a small piece of skin behind your knee and wait 24 hours to see if you react.

On the label:
Potassium Thioglycolate (depilatory)
Calcium Thioglycolate (depilatory)
Sodium Hydroxide (minimizer)
Sanguisorba Officinalis Root Extract (minimizer)
Hydrolyzed Soy Protein (minimizer)

Bottom line:
Safe to use

Sunscreens
Just because you’re pregnant doesn’t mean you can’t hit the beach. In fact, feeling the sand between your toes and that warm breeze in your hair may provide that perfect “relaxation point” your Lamaze instructor has been talking about. And as your mom always told you: Don’t forget the sunscreen.

Sunscreens, including those with ingredients that penetrate the skin, are perfectly safe when you’ve got your own bun in the oven, says Baumann.

“[Ingredients] that do go deep into the skin do so in such small concentrations” that they’re not worth worrying about, says Johnson. “I personally prefer titanium dioxide and zinc oxide — they are powerful physical sunscreens and do not penetrate the skin.”

She adds, “In addition to sunscreen, we advise sun-smart behaviors — avoiding the sun between 10 a.m. and 4 p.m.; using a sun hat, sunglasses and sun-protective clothing; and reapplying your sunscreen every two hours.”

And if you have melasma, adds Baumann, you can try a UV protector with a skin lightener.

On the label:
Titanium dioxide
Zinc oxide
Avobenzone (Parsol 1789)
Oxybenzone
Dioxybenzone
Benzophenone
Octyl methoxycinnamate (OMC)
Para-aminobenzoic acid (PABA)
Octocrylene

Bottom line:
Safe to use

Makeup
You may not give a second thought to the kind of makeup you use, but even cosmetics are something to consider when pregnant, says dermatologist Johnson.

Many makeup products are marked “noncomedogenic” or “nonacnegenic” — meaning they’re oil-free and don’t clog pores. These are safe and will not affect the health of your baby.

Avoid cosmetics that contain retinol or salicylic acid (found in some makeup for acne-prone skin).

If you want to be super careful during pregnancy, try some of the minerals-only makeup lines. These products use ingredients that primarily sit on top of the skin and don’t cause irritation for most people.

On the label:
Differin (adapelene)
Retin-A, Renova (tretinoin)
Retinoic acid
Retinol
Retinyl linoleate
Retinyl palmitate
Tazorac and avage (Tazarotene)
Tretinoin

Bottom line:
Avoid cosmetics that contain retinoids or salicylic acids. Otherwise, safe to use.

The final word
When you’re pregnant, Baumann says, it’s important to discuss any product you use on your skin with your healthcare provider.

But if you realize you have used a product that contains one of the potentially harmful ingredients noted above, don’t panic, says Johnson. Simply stop using the product now and pick one with known-to-be-safe ingredients.

“Most over-the-counter products by reputable brands are safe,” she says. “And if you are applying these products to less than 10 percent of your total skin surface, the risks of systemic effects are very low.”

孕婦吃巧克力寶寶受益 Monday, Jul 23 2007 

  最近,芬蘭科學家所公佈的一項研究結果給既饞又不敢亂吃東西的孕婦帶來了好消息:孕婦吃巧克力對寶寶的行為有益。

  芬蘭研究人員對300名孕婦在妊娠期間食用巧克力的情況,及其懷孕後的心理壓力情況進行了調查。 调查和分析结果发现,孕妇每天吃一些巧克力对宝宝出生后的行为有着积极的影响。調查和分析結果發現,孕婦每天吃一些巧克力對寶寶出生後的行為有著積極的影響。

    研究人员发现,与那些在妊娠期间很少吃巧克力的孕妇所生的宝宝相比,在妊娠期间爱吃巧克力的孕妇所生的宝宝在出生6个月后更喜欢微笑或表现出开心的样子。    研究人員發現,與那些在妊娠期間很少吃巧克力的孕婦所生的寶寶相比,在妊娠期間愛吃巧克力的孕婦所生的寶寶在出生6個月後更喜歡微笑或表現出開心的樣子。 该项研究还显示,那些容易紧张的孕妇,如果在妊娠期间能经常食用巧克力,其所生的孩子不怕生人。該項研究還顯示,那些容易緊張的孕婦,如果在妊娠期間能經常食用巧克力,其所生的孩子不怕生人。

  芬蘭科學家認為,喜歡吃巧克力的孕婦所生孩子容易呈現出比較健康向上的情緒,這與巧克力中所含的某種化學成分有關。 孕妇在食用巧克力后会把这种化学物质传给正在母体内发育的婴儿,从而使得其在出生后,特别是在6个月后,表现出积极的生活情绪。孕婦在食用巧克力後會把這種化學物質傳給正在母體內發育的嬰兒,從而使得其在出生後,特別是在6個月後,表現出積極的生活情緒。

 

小嬰兒需要睡枕頭嗎? Monday, Jul 23 2007 

採訪/陳雯琪
諮詢/林口長庚兒童醫院小兒外科主任 張北葉
   HOMY和家床店副總經理 藍淑敏

成人睡眠時要枕頭,那麼需不需要替小嬰兒量身打造”小枕頭”呢?其實這個舉動是不必要的,因為小嬰兒在任何姿勢下都可以進入睡眠狀態,因此,替寶寶選用專用枕,是多此一舉的動作,建議待孩子大一些,可以維持固定睡姿時再給予,才不會白費功夫!

枕頭是決定孩子頭型的關鍵嗎?答案可能不如家長的預期。專家強調,只要家長每二個小時替孩子翻動一次睡姿,避免維持同一姿勢過久,就可有效雕塑孩子的頭型。

慎選枕頭 避免窒息危機

別小看枕頭的功用喔!HOMY和家床店副總經理藍淑敏表示,枕頭最主要的功用是支撐頸椎,少了“它”睡眠品質就會大打折扣了呢!

那麼剛出生的嬰兒需不需要枕頭呢?其實是不用的!藍淑敏解釋,新生兒的頸椎是直的,所以當其平躺時,頸椎會自然呈現垂直狀,所以不用特別靠枕頭來支撐,而且如果在六個月大前使用太過柔軟的枕頭,還可能還會有窒息的危險。

林口長庚兒童醫院小兒外科主任張北葉則強調,對嬰幼兒而言,枕頭並不是絕對需要的必需品,尤其是過於柔軟的枕頭,並不足以支撐嬰幼兒躺上去時頭部的壓力。而且小嬰兒在媽媽的肚子裡時多半呈現捲曲狀,因此,小嬰兒在任何姿勢下都可以睡眠,所以並不需要額外的助眠工具。

此外,滿月過後,寶寶就有足夠的力量移動頭部,所以如果仔細觀察嬰幼兒會發現,通常在其進入睡眠狀態後一個小時左右,頭就會離開枕頭,所以,對寶寶而言,枕頭顯然是沒有作用的。

那麼什麼時候才需要使用枕頭呢?張北葉認為,等小朋友大一些,會固定姿勢睡覺時,才需要枕頭。

依需求 挑選合適枕頭

每個孩子都是家裡的小寶貝,挑選貼身商品時更是馬虎不得。藍淑敏建議,替幼兒挑選枕頭時,應依孩子的身長及高度來著手,才能挑選到合適的枕頭。

如果挑選太硬的枕頭(如:綠豆枕)則無法貼合孩子的頭形,太軟的(如:羽絨枕)又無法給頸椎足夠的支持力,且還有窒息的危險,因此,軟硬度合適,才是最適合孩子的產品。

至於表布的材質也應選擇透氣性佳的材質,以免太悶、不透氣使寶寶過敏。此外,由於寶寶十分會流口水,選擇一個易清洗的枕頭,也可替媽媽省去不少清潔上的困擾。

市售枕頭比一比

市面上的枕頭種類繁多,家長該怎麼挑呢?藍淑敏強調,挑選產品時千萬不可貪便宜,最好選擇專業,且具有信譽、標誌完整的廠家,品質才有保障。此外,仔細比對表布及裡布的材質,感受產品的密度及重量,並檢視外觀是否完整,有無破損,這些都是必做的審查項目,千萬不可馬虎唷!

此外,選購時也不應貪便宜,一般市面上標榜NT$99、NT$199的產品多屬便宜的矽膠枕,為化學發泡物,可能會散發有毒物質,選購時宜當心,嗅一嗅、聞一聞都是不可少的動作。

一般市售產品依照產品的材質及組成,約可分為下列幾種:
* 造型枕:即傳統的枕頭,材質多半為毛巾布,觸感較溫柔,且有可愛的圖案,可直接清洗,造形多半為甜甜圈狀。
* 抗菌枕:強調表層抗菌材質,對於會過敏的寶寶而言,是不錯的選擇。
* 乳膠枕:乳膠枕多半較輕薄,且可按體型改變彎度,為天然材質,且具有不易變形的特點,對於過敏、會打呼的寶寶而言,是另一種選擇。
* 矽膠枕:波浪式的矽膠枕,由於中間有凹槽,具有固定的效果,可以完全吻合寶寶的頭形。不過,矽膠為化學發泡物,家長選購時應注意聞味道,以免購買到含毒的產品。

出生六個月內 頭型最佳雕塑期

嬰兒的頭型是可以塑造的嗎?張北葉說明,答案是可以的,不過成功的關鍵不在於選對枕頭,而是在於不斷變換的睡姿。這也就是為什麼中國人的臉型多半較大,而西方人多半為窄型臉的原因,因為中國人習慣讓嬰兒仰睡,而西方人則多半會讓孩子趴睡或側睡。

這是為什麼呢?張北葉進一步解釋,嬰兒在出生時為了順利通過狹小的產道,因此頭骨是柔軟的,同時也是可以塑造的。但由於出生後,頭骨會迅速鈣化,以便保護頭部,因此,如果在這段期間內,都讓寶寶仰睡,那麼後頭部在鈣化的過程中就會較為扁平。

選對枕頭 有效雕塑孩子頭型?

枕頭為什麼無法改變孩子的頭型呢?原因在於市售的枕頭都過於柔軟,無法呈受頭部的重量,所以就算睡枕頭,孩子還是會擁有較扁平的臉。

想讓孩子擁有理想的頭型,枕頭就要有型。張北葉強調,由於出生後的嬰兒通常是仰睡,所以為了將寶寶的頭型保持合理、完美的圓形,就必需給予一個理想的球型枕頭,才具有雕塑頭型的功效。

轉載:BabyLife育兒生活雜誌

numbness in my hands Saturday, Jul 21 2007 

I didn’t really feel that till this week.  >_<’ 

How to reduce pain and numbness in your hands and perineal massage
 

You may be feeling some achiness and even numbness in your fingers, wrists,

and hands. Like many other tissues in your body, those in your wrist can retain

fluid, which can increase pressure in the carpal tunnel, a bony canal in your wrist.

Nerves that run through this “tunnel” may end up pinched, creating numbness;

tingling, shooting or burning pain; or a dull ache.Some practitioners recommend

massaging the perineum (the area between your vulva and your anus) to help

you avoid having an episiotomy or tearing during childbirth. Not everyone is

comfortable doing this but if you’d like to give it a try, now’s the time to start.

Here’s one method:

• Wash your hands and then sit in a warm, comfortable area,

 spreading your legs apart in a semi-reclined position.

Put Vitamin E oil (from Vitamin E capsules) or pure vegetable oil on

your fingers and thumbs and around your perineum.

• Place your thumbs about 1 to 1 1/2 inches

 (up to or just past your first knuckle) inside your vagina.

Press down toward your rectum and then out toward the sides.

Gently and firmly continue stretching until you feel a

slight burn or tingling. Hold this stretch for about 2 minutes —

 until the tingling starts to subside.

• Slowly and gently massage the lower part of the vaginal canal

 back and forth, hooking your thumbs onto the sides of the

vaginal canal and gently pulling these tissues forward,

as your baby’s head will do during delivery. Keep this up for 3 to 4 minutes.

• Be gentle, as a vigorous touch could cause bruising or swelling

 in these sensitive tissues. During the massage avoid pressure

on the urethra (urinary opening). This can cause irritation or infection.

Why is it more difficult to breathe now?

You need more oxygen as your baby grows, but that growing baby

is also compressing your lungs and making it more difficult

for you to take deep breaths, explains Dr. Margaret Pfeifer,

an obstetrician and gynecologist at the Mayo Clinic in Minnesota.

Occasional or mild shortness of breath is a normal

pregnancy symptom, but if you’re getting severely winded doing

daily tasks or breathing is painful, get help right away.


What can women do to reduce the risk of tearing?
 

Erica Breneman
Obstetrician in Oakland, California, and mother of one
Having a provider who doesn’t routinely cut

episiotomies definitely decreases the chance

of large tears. Eating a healthy diet makes

tissue stronger. Some people advocate gentle perineal

stretching for the last six weeks of pregnancy,

which may help some. Women are also less likely

to tear after the first vaginal delivery.

MaryJane Lewitt
Certified Nurse-Midwife in Atlanta, Georgia, and mother of two
To reduce the risk of tearing during birth,

the best thing you can do ahead of time

is eat nutritiously and drink lots of water.

Some people also recommend perineal

massage and continued sex with your partner.

I think the most important thing is to

have a healthcare provider who’s skilled in

perineal massage while you’re pushing and knows various techniques to support the perineum during birth.

Expert Advice:

Is it safe to take a lot of antacids during pregnancy?
 

Expert: Ronald Ruggiero, clinical professor in the schools of pharmacy and medicine, University of California, San Francisco, CAAs long as you don’t take any more than is recommended on the label, antacids are not a problem. If you take too much, you’ll probably get somewhat constipated. But that’s not going to do any harm to your baby.

runawayMOM Friday, Jul 20 2007 

這種事,只能親身體會,不能言傳也。

昨天晚上好像吞了炸藥。

我自己不知道,但它已經在肚子裡爆炸,餘硝順著身上千萬個毛細孔滲出…

因為老公一整晚說:『嗚,我老婆不見了。』

有嗎?

在他說第二次後我才驚覺自己怪怪的。

『我是不是又在想什麼沒說出來的才會越想越氣啊?』

我也不知道…

臨睡前我問老公:『你有沒有看過I Am Sam?』

他看著我:『沒有。聽起來很可怕。』

^&*#$

挖哩咧…

『他不笨,他是我爸爸。』

我好氣的再說一遍。

他還是沒反應。

『演什麼?』

我簡短的說,就是一個智障的爸爸要獨自養一個七歲的女兒…

他老婆基本上在生完女兒出了醫院大門後就跑了。

『…』

老公好像有點緊張,他蹭到我旁邊:『所以妳要表達什麼?』

『沒啊,就突然想到。』我是個口是心非的傢伙。

也許我潛意識中想著要焦慮到最高點來個拋夫棄子。

噗哈…

一直作夢 Friday, Jul 20 2007 

ㄏㄡ ˋ …………

最近不停的作夢。

最近是多近?

ㄣ…

有機個月了吧。

不知道是不是越接近末期的生裡變化還是潛意識裡我真的太忙碌了。

剛昏睡中清醒(我竟然連老公鬧鐘響起床出門都沒聽見),

晃晃悠悠走進洗手間…『我剛做的什麼夢?』

 我突然發現這幾天都夢到學校ㄟ。

剛夢到的是小學。

說是小學嘛,我身邊的『同學』可一點都不小。

Tracy&Levi都在裡面咧! @#$%^

『同學』裡有從國小到國中的範圍。

但感覺上裡面的我們卻又保有現階段的心智年齡。

這是什麼跟什麼嘛??

這次的學校很確定是國小。

走在川堂上要換到另一個班,走廊上很熱鬧,簡直擁擠。

My Pregnancy This Week_35 Thursday, Jul 19 2007 

ok…

guess that explains why  :)

 Picture of your developing baby

Hello, Allyson!

Your baby doesn’t have much room to maneuver now that he’s over 18 inches long and tips the scales at 5 pounds plus. Because it’s so snug in your womb, he isn’t likely to be doing somersaults anymore, but the number of times he kicks should remain about the same. His kidneys are fully developed now, and his liver can process some waste products. Most of his basic physical development is now complete — he’ll spend the next few weeks putting on weight.

>> Read more about this week



Your expanding uterus, plus why pregnant women waddle
 

Your uterus — which was entirely tucked away inside your pelvis when you conceived — now reaches up under your rib cage. If you could peek inside your womb, you’d see that there’s more baby than amniotic fluid in there now. Your ballooning uterus is crowding your other internal organs, too, which is why you probably have to urinate more often and may be dealing with heartburn and other gastrointestinal distress. If you’re not grappling with these annoyances, you’re one of the lucky few.From here on out, you’ll start seeing your practitioner every week. Sometime between now and 37 weeks, she’ll do a vaginal and rectal culture to check for bacteria called Group B streptococci (GBS). (Don’t worry — the swab is the size of a regular cotton swab, and it won’t hurt at all.) GBS is usually harmless in adults, but if you have it and pass it on to your baby during birth, it can cause serious complications, such as pneumonia, meningitis, or a blood infection. Because 10 to 30 percent of pregnant women have the bacteria and don’t know it, it’s vital to be screened. (The bacteria come and go on their own — that’s why you weren’t screened earlier in pregnancy.) If you’re a GBS carrier, you’ll get IV antibiotics during labor, which will greatly reduce your baby’s risk of infection.

Why do I feel like I’m waddling?As you get closer to your due date, the cartilage and ligaments that join your pelvic bones increasingly soften and relax, causing an expansion that allows your baby to pass through the birth canal more easily. These changes cause some pregnant women to waddle, says Carolyn Sampselle, a professor of nursing at the University of Michigan. Lightening, when your baby descends lower into your pelvis prior to birth, can also cause the telltale waddle. Some women experience lightening several weeks before their babies arrive.

3 yr artist Wednesday, Jul 18 2007 

How to raise a happy baby and child Tuesday, Jul 17 2007 

http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/baby/babydevelopment/1490882.html

How to raise a happy child

By Jill Storey

Like any parent who wants the best for her children, Trish Bragg has done everything she can to make sure Isabel, Madeline, and Charlie are healthy, have plenty of stimulating activities to fill their day, and are loved unconditionally. Yet, like many, she struggles with parenting’s million-dollar question: Are my kids happy? “Among all my friends, that’s what we want to know,” Bragg says.

What makes children happy may surprise you. Child development experts who study the subject say that happiness isn’t something you can give a child like a prettily wrapped present. In fact, says Edward Hallowell, psychiatrist and author of The Childhood Roots of Adult Happiness, over-indulged children — whether showered with toys or shielded from emotional discomfort — are more likely to grow into teenagers who are bored, cynical, and joyless. “The best predictors of happiness are internal, not external,” says Hallowell, who stresses the importance of helping kids develop a set of inner tools they can rely on throughout life.

The good news is you don’t have to be an expert in child psychology to impart the inner strength and wisdom it takes to weather life’s ups and downs. With patience and flexibility, any parent can lay the groundwork for a lifetime of happiness.

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